Hate is the answer.

When Asher gets mad his first reaction is to scream "I hate you," and run off. It doesn't hurt me. It turns his pain inward and that doesn't help anybody. But his little heart can't hear me just yet. He is created of pure passion and steering that in the right direction is my biggest parenting responsibility right now. 

I'm trying to teach Asher that there's no power in hate. At least not in the way he thinks. He spews out "I hate you" thinking "that'll show em and hurt em" but it does more damage to his own heart than anyone's. The dagger stabs inward not outward; we just don't need daggers anyway, when are we going to realize this? 

Now love, however. Love is the most powerful thing on all of the earth. You want change?  Use love not hate. Love will solve problems you didn't know were there, while hate creates them. Love carries such transformative power that catches people off guard because it doesn't always make sense, while hate only serves to cause expected division. 

Hate is its own master and there's no controlling it. It's why you should do yourself a favor and not even deal with it at all. Left alone, hate will destroy itself and show you its true colors. Hate destroys and if it has nothing to attack, it'll turn inward and fizzle out. 

You want to cause more problems and pain than you started with? 

Hate is the answer.