Parenting is hard

We take so much of the blame when  parenting is hard. But shouldn't it be hard?

Being a child, navigating the world, learning about humanity and the whys and hows is hard too. We're all doing the best we can and humaning is intense!  Don't you remember?  Being a child and feeling misunderstood and unimportant because of your age?  Meanwhile you have these big ideas and everyone is like "quiet down."

I was listening to a song and it said something like, "this is for the kids who are told don't speak until spoken to and then are never spoken to." We shut them down a lot. We should really listen more. Encourage them to do hard things and let those things be hard. 

Even with the BEST most "on it" parenting, it is difficult. And "on it" parenting just means you have the child's best interest at heart. It doesn't mean you remember to pick them up from school EVERY time 😉 or you remember to pack their lunch EVERY morning 😉 Hahahaha Not that I've ever done those things NO. *insert one million winks here*

I'm just saying, for some reason when it's hard we start looking for a reason why so that we can blame ourselves when sometimes, it's just difficult and it's nobody's fault. You aren't failing as a parent, your child isn't falling into a deep pit where he/she can't be redeemed. 

Keep moving. Keep loving.

I often forget...it feels hard to be a parent but what about a brand new human??  I mean 9 is not a lot of years. How crazy it is learning the intricacies of communication and moods (yours and others) as a little one!!

It's hard because it's hard.

And to parent that????  SO HARD

Sometimes I expect her to just know things but she lacks experience and the only way she can get the wisdom that comes with that???  

Yep. 

Doing life and figuring it out and getting frustrated and having hurt feelings and taking it all out on me. 

I have to decide to just take it for the betterment of her and the world.  Love her through it. Teach her through it. 

It's gonna be hard, but if we expect that instead of trying to fix that then we'll be in a much better place.